How To Diet With Your Spouse

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Sometimes, embarking on a new fitness journey works well for you, but not so much for your partner or spouse. Here are some tips to help you live harmoniously while on different diets.

 

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The Temptation In The House

 

For the spouse trying to lose weight:

To succeed in any diet, one needs to remove as much of the unhealthy foods as possible. But since you and your spouse share kitchens, it may be a challenge to see all the tempting sweets and crisps. Figure out what your food weaknesses are, and have an open and honest conversation with your spouse about limiting these foods.

 

For the spouse on the sidelines:

It may be a bummer for your partner to throw out the chips and sweets if you’re not really trying to lose weight, but you could also benefit from having a healthier pantry overall. If you’re craving, though, try to indulge when your spouse isn’t around.

 

The Spouse Losing Weight Expects Perfection

 

For the spouse trying to lose weight:

It can be frustrating when you miss a workout or slip up on your diet. When you do, don’t beat yourself up for it; allow for small and very occasional) mistakes. Feel good about the progress you’ve already had instead of being in a bad mood and taking out on your spouse. Anyway, stress won’t be helpful to your diet. Instead, focus on how not to make the same mistakes again and discuss them openly with your spouse.

 

For the spouse on the sidelines:

No matter how supportive you try to be, there will be times when your partner will make mistakes. When this happens, just be understanding and remember that the frustration isn’t your fault. Give them some space, and then provide affirmations that they are doing well. You can even help them strategize on ways to improve their lifestyle and avoid slip-ups.

 

 The Spouse Not Dieting Expects Perfection

 

For the spouse trying to lose weight:

When your spouse points out your diet mistakes or nags you, it may hurt. It can be painful to hear those things especially when you’ve been working hard. Just try to keep in mind that his or her comments are said out of love and genuine concern. Openly discuss with them how you feel, but also acknowledge that they mean well and probably didn’t intend to hurt you.

 

For the spouse on the sidelines:

Cut your partner some slack, especially if they don’t often make mistakes and have otherwise been progressing well. You may have good intentions, but the message may come across as hurtful. Also, nagging too much may only discourage your spouse from losing weight. Have a discussion with him or her about how you can be a better support system for them.

 

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 Everything Is New

 

For the spouse trying to lose weight:

It’s possible that you’re getting closer to your target weight and are more motivated than ever to keep eating healthy. But all these new habits may make your spouse feel left out. While you should stick to a healthier lifestyle, think of ways to include your partner. Look for restaurants that they will enjoy and are part of your meal plan. With so many options, you are bound to find some.

 

For the spouse on the sidelines:

It’s okay to feel a little sad that your spouse has changed so much. Keep in mind that the situation will normalize soon and that your spouse is still your spouse, just healthier and more energetic.

 

While you’re at it, why not join in on his or her lifestyle? You need not be as strict, and you will find that you can enjoy healthy but delicious food.

 

Tips On Eating Healthy As A Couple

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Maintaining a balanced diet can be tricky enough to do alone, but it is even more challenging when the person you share your life with wants to eat cookies and cakes just as much as you do. In the long run, though, eating well can only benefit you two, so make a healthy lifestyle fun and straightforward with these tips:

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Ways To Restore Your Failing Marriage

 

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Are you on the verge of calling it quits with the person you vowed to love endlessly no matter what?

People can tell that what you are dealing with is difficult, but only the couples who got close to having a failed marriage genuinely know how painful it is to be in your shoes right now. Whenever you talk to your spouse, you fight. The past may often resurface as well, which prevents the husband and wife from moving on or making peace with each other.

However, as long as there is no third party involved, you still have a chance to restore your failing marriage.

 

Avoid Doubting Your Decisions

Once the going gets tough, the initial reaction of individuals is to contemplate if they made the right decisions in life. “Was it honestly OK to marry this man (or woman)?” “Should I have divorced this fellow a long time ago?” “Will I be in this situation if I married someone else?”

It is easy to deduce that what you are doing is wrong. It is a total waste of energy to try answering such questions because you already got hitched to your spouse. You chose to be with this person. So now, opt to find love in your heart for him or her again to repair your marriage.

 

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Use Constructive Words To Express Yourself

There is no uncertainty in our minds that your relationship that’s only hanging by a thread now will break if you keep on commenting negatively to one another. For instance, it is rude to say, “Fix that freaking door, will you?” or “Why can’t you do anything properly?” That will enable your significant other to retort in a mean way too, which you will surely answer out of irritation, and then it becomes a never-ending cycle.

How hard is it to reconstruct your words in a manner that will make your spouse listen to you instead of turning his or her back on you? Just throw ‘I feel…’ or ‘I worry that…’ or‘please’ here and there, and that can improve the tone of your sentences. The more you both can do that, the lesser your arguments may be.

 

Tackle One Problem At A Time

Multitasking is not for everyone. It is especially not suitable for couples who need to deal with many issues together. Forcing yourselves to resolve everything at once may only result in more prominent damages to your marriage since you may want to blame the failure of your attempts to each other.

To move forward without crashing, it is great to start with a list of problems on hand. Write them all down individually, and then tackle every number on your papers alternately. As you continue healing old wounds, the thoughts of divorcing your spouse may become bleak.

 

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Stay Patient

In case you have been clashing for months already, you should know that making amends with one another can go on for that long necessary. It will be futile to expect your arguments to end soon as you choose to save your marriage.

Despite that, the fuel you need is a vast amount of patience. Without that, you will get stuck on the rocky road and jeopardize your union even further.